The family is at a historical and spiritual crossroads. Men have moved away from leadership in family and Church to a
market and sports orientation. Children have lost their identities and women have gained a set of counterfeit identities.
What a travesty!
OCEANetwork has adopted a wonderful picture of what the homeschool family should model. It is foundational. Straight
from the Holy Bible. Homeschooling should be more accurately termed "Family Discipleship".
Turning the hearts of the father to their children, the children's hearts
to their father, turning the hearts of the spouses toward each other and turning the hearts of the family toward God.
Vision Forum and Mantle Ministries are two organizations that are also strongly promoting this deep truth to godly men.
As men are commanded to be the spiritual leader of of their family, they should view home educating as not only their spiritual
duty to their children in training them up in the way should go, but take a very active role in it. Family discipleship.
Why are homeschool conferences full of women with a sparse population of fathers and grandfathers? Men should be there in
great numbers, even outnumbering the women.
It is not surprising to see men rising up and taking upon themselves this god-given role in fantastic numbers in
Quoted from Vision Forum:
At the 2005 Vision Forum Ministries’ Father
and Son Discipleship Retreat, 450 fathers and sons were encouraged to set aside the selfish and effeminate model of modern
manhood and to be men with a family-embracing, multi-generational vision for the glory of God. One father — the CEO
of a major corporation — was so encouraged by the vision communicated at the retreat that he drafted the following letter.
In our minds, it constitutes the manifesto of a father who has been moved by the Holy Spirit to draw a line in the sand in
the spirit of the prophet who exhorted us to fight for “...your brethren, your sons, and your daughters, your wives,
and your houses” (Nehemiah 4:14). To honor him in his position of leadership, we are publishing the following letter
"I wanted to share with you, that I experienced an incredible
movement of the Holy Spirit over the four days with you and your staff. You have assembled a team to be proud of. Each member
operated as an integral branch of the Vision Forum team. They demonstrated honor and service in their actions. This was especially
a blessing for me to see, when they moved throughout the camp. True character is what we do and what we say when no one is
watching to hold us accountable.
The sheer strength of 450 men focused on Jesus and His desire
to have us take our ordained role in the family brought me to tears several times at the conference. You have committed yourself,
your family, and your ministry to a stand that is biblically codified, and one which serves to galvanize families in the wake
of a world trying to corrode them at their very roots.
The establishment of a patriarchal family is not a popular
road to take in a world weakened by a feminist agenda. It is such a shame that our society has denigrated the woman’s
role in a family, and the honor they so desperately seek is freely offered in a loving and God-ordained relationship in a
properly focused home. What a joy to see a god fearing woman at peace and fulfilled as her husband serves her in his role
as required in 1 Peter 3:7.
It is sad that critics of a patriarchal family errantly focus
on what is given up; rather than on the blessings received as families surrender to the sovereignty of a Heavenly Father that
requires our obedience in our homes. It is truly tragic that so many miss the joy and freedom found in complete surrender
Having a wife that supports this family structure is a blessing
that I am so thankful for.
As we have discussed, our Lord has blessed my wife and I with
nine olive plants and I welcome each day the opportunity to share with them the grace, mercy, and promises of Jesus.
The process is not an easy one, for I wrestle with a world
battling for my family. I must always be on guard, lest a bit of leaven cross the threshold of my house.
And I am “confident of this very thing, that he which
hath begun a good work in [me] will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ.”
I miss the days when our nation operated under a banner of
honor. A time when our people looked away when our President was carried to the podium to speak to a terrified nation. A time
when a friend’s parents weren’t afraid to correct a visiting neighbor’s child, and when the parents of the
child appreciated the community support. I am embarrassed by a nation that is more concerned with the rights of a whale than
the beating heart of a child, whose only crime was its parents’ lack of obedience to God. This should not be
To this extent, I will not rest in my resistance to the onslaught
of neutrality propagated by the media, in an effort to desensitize a nation. For it is within this state of malaise and ennui,
that the gay agenda, the tearing down of the Ten Commandments, and the incessant attack on right and wrong gains vital ground.
A tragedy of this magnitude is not a coincidence. There are well educated and well-funded efforts that are laser focused on
the exposed underbelly of the family. This is why I will not allow the introduction of objectionable materials in to our home.
The older I get, the more I understand that this filtering process requires continual calibration. The weekend at the retreat
assisted in this calibration, and I am grateful for another coating of Scripture to varnish and protect the spiritual wood
of my family.
I love Winston Churchill’s “Never Give In”
speech, made on October 29, 1941 to the boys at his old school, Harrow: “Never give in — never, never, never,
never, in nothing great or small, large or petty, never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never yield
to force; never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.’”
I have heard this quoted as “never quit,” but I
believe that to state it this way misses the essence of the speech. “Give in” represents a state of being overtaken.
And I believe that this is the enemy’s goal. Satan is not trying to just have you quit, his goal is to overtake you,
so that you are neutralized, so that you become homogenized with the rest of the world. I will not allow my family to become
diluted. I want us to be salt. I want my family to be a light. For it is the light of a Christian which makes unbelievers
uncomfortable as they are forced to deal with the highlighted parts of their lives that stand between them and a loving Father.
May we always count it joy to position our families based upon
the requirements of His word. The Bible is complete; for it contains the answers to every issue of life."
The following is Reprinted with permission from the Oregon Christian
Home Education Association Network, 17985 Falls City Rd., Dallas, OR 97338. http://www.oceanetwork.org. Originally published
April 2002 in OCEANetwork Waves.
From a Father's Heart: A Bountiful Harvest
By: Dick Karman
not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man sows, that shall he also reap. For he that sows to his flesh shall of
the flesh reap corruption; but he that sows to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. (Galatians 6:7-8)
may be one of the most important verses for home educators today. No matter what methods we use or what motivates us to educate
our children, we cannot deny God's sovereignty. God will not be mocked! When you sow the seeds of righteousness in your children,
you will reap the blessing of godliness in your children and in your children's children. If we sow the seeds of the world
or even allow them to grow unchecked, that is what we shall reap. It's a promise from God.
"I don't see righteousness
in my children," you may say. Be patient. Be faithful. You may be expecting immediate results. You may be wanting results
without waiting for God's timing . God doesn't give you instant gratification, yet His promises are the same yesterday, today
and forever. (Hebrews 13:8)
As you take the role of a parent who is faithful to God's plan, you must keep your eyes
on the things that are above, not on the things here below (Colosians 3:2) Remember, some crops take longer than one season
to come to maturity. You can trust HIM to reap what you sow.
During the schooling years it is impossible to know everything
that God has planned for our children. Eye has not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things
which God has prepared for them that love him. (1 Cor 2:9) We can't imagine what great things God has in store for our children.
fall into the trap of the world. People today says, "it's OK as long as we don't get caught." The morals of the nation seem
to be built on this premise. As parent we can look on our students and say, "maybe I didn't get everything done, but the kids
don't look too worse for wear." Don't be deceived.
God is specific: "whatsoever a man sows, that shall he
also reap." Man today has been blinded by the ways of the world. You may not reap in the same season, but you will
reap! "Maybe I'll get by this one time." To just "get by" isn't what God had planned. The best for your children and
your children's children is God plan.
There's more to the passage in Galatians: Be not deceived; God is not mocked:
for whatever a man sows, that shall he also reap. For he that sows to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he
that sows to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting. And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season
we shall reap, if we faint not. (Gal 6:7-9)
Parents today are not reaping in due season (even though they have
sown the seeds of righteousness) because they grow faint and fall away from God's plan. They give up on home education
because they don't believe God's promises. They're throwing away the blessing that God has in store for them. Perseverance
is not just something that we use in a spelling lesson. Perseverance is something that we need to teach by example.
Home school mothers and fathers, don't grow weary in well doing - raising Godly sons and daughters is the best well doing
you can be doing. Seek God's will. Don't grow weary. Faint not!
Dorothy and Dick Karman live
in Oregon and homeschooled their two children from birth through graduation. They founded the Oregon Christian Home Education
Association Network in 1985. Dick currently serves as Chairman of the Board and Dorothy is publications director.
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